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Life, a little big detour

There once lived a girl who had no idea what she wanted. She didn’t know who she was, what she wanted, or where to find it. After trying several different outlooks and paths she was still very confused. With so many people telling her to do this or like that she had absolutely no idea what she needed or wanted. Should she go with the crowd and be safe, or go against the crowed and end up lost. She didn’t know. She was utterly confused and had no one to turn to. So like a zombie she carried onward.

There once lived a young woman who thought she knew what she wanted. Convinced she knew exactly what she wanted she went after it. Just like any young woman she wanted a family, she wanted love, a partner, she wanted children, and she wanted to be happy. Within all of this she was still trying to find herself. Everything she did was scrutinized; every move, every decision, everything. Everything she wanted she got, all but one thing. She was not happy, she hadn’t been happy for a long time. Not like happy day to day, because she was generally a happy person.. but inside of her she wasn’t happy. Everything she thought she wanted and what she thought would make her happy didn’t. Except her children, and some days were hard with them. Even though she loved them immensely she longed for more, more for them and more for herself.

There once lived a woman who knew exactly what she wanted, but didn’t know how exactly to get it. Throughout the years she had gone through so much growth, inward and outward. She had been through many stages and each stage helped her get to a state of mind where she knew what she wanted in life and in love. Finally she was finding herself, and within finding herself she lost a few. People she knew were toxic for her, others she distanced herself from, because even though they weren’t toxic they still weren’t the best for her. She needed and wanted to surround herself with like minded people. Free spirits, true free spirits, hippies, homesteaders, off grid livers, witches and earth lovers. Those were her people, her tribe. The person she was, the person she longed to be.

There once lived a woman who didn’t know what she wanted or who she was. As that woman grew she learned many lessons. She learned who would accept her for who she was, and who would ultimately judge her for who she was. She learned who she was, and who she wanted to be as she grew older. She even learned who she wanted to surround herself with as the year progressed. So slowly she started the process of just being her, just letting go and being who she wanted. Unapologetically she is finally happy with who she is, she is excited for what her future holds, and who she sees in her future. With every step she takes she gets closer to her dream life.

There once lived a woman with a dream, a dream to live small, to live simply, to live off grid. A dream to live in a tiny home with her children, and a small homesteaders garden. With chickens, goats, and a couple pigs. To live with nature not against it, to learn from it and to love because of it. She was tired of the mainstream world, she had always been tired of it but never knew it. She tried to live in that world but felt so incredibly out of place. She needed to be with nature, to be where the people weren’t. She wasn’t materialistic enough to live in that world of wanting and needing more. She didn’t need anything but love, her children, and nature. She was a hippie at heart, and wanted to live the way she felt. So day by day, month by month she planned and waited for the perfect time to live the way she always dreamed. Until the day her dream became reality. On that day it will be like a release of emotions, finally living the life she longed for.

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Plant based all purpose cleaner and dish soap

This is fairly simple, no I’m not joking.. However it takes a bit of work. Now I know we are used to having cleaners made for us, to have them at our disposal. Well guess what most of those cleaners are toxic. The bottles are just tossed into the trash and you open a new one. So not only are they toxic, but it’s wasteful. I know some are thinking that so what if they’re toxic.. Imagine this.. A child finds a bottle of drain cleaner and drinks it. What happens to that child is the stuff of nightmares if he/she doesn’t die. Same if a child consumes bleach or laundry soap, or cleaning products.

You absolutely do not need all of those products being sold to you. There are a handful of basics you should keep in your home.

  • The list is as follows:
  • Baking soda
  • distilled vinegar (apple cider isn’t good for cleaning, but great for hair.)
  • Hemp antibacterial castile soap (tea tree, eucalyptus, lavender, and peppermint for example)
  • Hemp castile soap – scent of choice
  • salt (kosher or sea salt)
  • extras include:
  • borax
  • citric acid (food grade)
  • washing soda
  • Lemons and oranges

Side note: I also keep oregano oil on hand, it’s a natural antibiotic.

So for the cleaner here is what you will need.

  • 1 gallon of distilled white vinegar
  • 5/6 lemons or oranges ( you could probably combine them both but I keep them separated into different bottles.)

Remove the skins from the fruits and place into the skins into vinegar, don’t add the whole fruit or it will be sticky and not clean very well. I leave my solution under my sink for one to two weeks. I give them a good turn when I remember too. It’s not a necessity just something I like to do. I also label my bottles with the date so I can keep track. Once the two weeks is up, take a spray bottle (reuse one if you have it laying around, just rinse it out good with hot water. Especially if it was a bottle with a toxic cleaner in it.) Fill the bottle half way with the vinegar and fill the rest with filtered water, add a teaspoon of antibacterial soap and give it a gentle shake. Remember to shake gently every time you use it. These natural products tend to settle. That’s all there is to it really.

Now for my dish soap

this is so so simple, here’s all you have to do, it’s a 1:1 soap to water ratio

  • 2 cups antibacterial hemp castile soap
  • 1 cup regular scented or unscented hemp castile soap
  • 3 cups filtered water

Now this mix will be much thinner than you’re used too, I assure you it works just as well if not better than the store bought stuff. Just mix all the ingredients together in the bottle and gently shake it. I’m still reusing an old store bought bottle, the top cap is gone but it still has the pouring spout so it’s working just as well. That’s all y’all have to do.


my simple drain cleaner – you’ll need

  1. enough baking soda to fill the drain
  2. a boiling pot (or two) of vinegar and water brought to a full boil

Make sure you fill the drain with baking soda but you don’t pack it into the drain. Bring to a boil the vinegar and water, it doesn’t have to be filtered water, tap water will work just fine. Be carful pouring the hot water down the drain. Doing this should get rid and kill drain flies. I also do this every couple months.

These methods are simple and safe, but be smart you still don’t want to get vinegar into your eyes. and because I need to say it, keep all cleaning products and solutions away from your kids. This is common sense but, ya never know.

Reuse, reuse, reuse. I cannot stress it enough. There is no need to buy a bottle if you have one or two laying around. Also don’t throw the gallon jug out, that can be used to put laundry soap in, or anything else you can think to use it for.

Another side note, I am putting together a way to sell my products hopefully at farmers markets coming this Spring and Summer.

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Homemade body wash

So I ran out of the body wash I bought, so I decided to make my own. Since I’ve decided to severely scale down the amount of products in my home, I wanted to try making body wash. It’s cheaper and I know what I’m putting on our bodies.

Here’s the recipe:

You’ll need a container – reuse what you have if you can.
1 1/3 cup Castile soap
(I used hemp eucalyptus and hemp rose)
2/3 cup oil
(I used coconut, but you can use almond, grapeseed, olive oils)
1 1/3 cup filtered water

You can double this, but I already doubled it since my container was larger..

Prices for products
Hemp soap: I got on sale for $5ish
Coconut oil: I already had this one – $8
Water: free
Total: roughly $15 (rounded up)

I can make several batches with these products, so all in all I’m saving. It smells awesome too. It’s so much more gratifying to make your own products. Yes people will think you’re crazy if you tell them you don’t buy certain things anymore, and just make it.. Think of it this way, you won’t have any questions as to what you’re putting on your body. Major plus there, and you’ll be saving money.. I mean come on.. we all want to save money.. give it a try I think you’ll come to like it. Just remember it will be thinner consistently than store bought stuff. Also remember to give it a shake before you use it, just for good measure.

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Homemade laundry soap take 2

I’m always on a mission to simplify life, so when it came to my laundry soap it wasn’t any different . I needed to simplify it, as it was becoming a lot of work. I had to try making it into a liquid. Y’all I’m never going back to making the powdered kind. Not only was it quicker, it was also much quieter. Now when I say quieter I mean I didn’t need to used my food processor. It’s how I would combine everything before and make sure it was a thin enough consistency to use in the washer. A big perk of this recipe is you can use it with cold water, to save on money.

For me I go to the laundromat once a week, ever since my dryer died and I decided not to buy a new one. After researching I came to the conclusion that using the laundromat once a week was more eco friendly. Their machines are more efficient and it saves on the amount of time I’m doing laundry. Takes me a couple hours (tops) to do a whole households worth of laundry.

So here’s my recipe for the new way of making laundry soap.

What you will need:


Five gallon bucket (I splurged and got a screw top, so if knocked over it’s spill proof)

Boiling pot

Cutting board

Knife or cheese grater

Wooden spoon

Slotted metal spoon

Glass measuring cup (mine was a 4 cup one)

Wooden or metal 1 cup measuring cup


2 cups borax

2 cups washing soda

1 cup baking soda (optional)

1 Dr. bronners bar soap (I use unscented or rose)

2 gallons of tap water divided

1 quart of tap water

Here’s what you will need to do.

Bring a one gallon of water to a boil, then add it to the five gallon bucket. To that add the borax, washing soda, and baking soda. Stir until dissolved.

Next bring the quart of water to a boil. While you wait for it to boil now is a goos time to grate or thinly cut up your bar soap. I cut mine on a cutting board. Add the cut up bar soap to the pan. It’s important to shut the pan off at this point, or it WILL boil over and you don’t want that. Stir until the soap it’s completely dissolved. Add that mix to the bucket and stir.

Bring the final gallon of water to a boil, add that to the bucket, and stir. Place bucket uncovered in a corner away from pets and children. Remember it’s still a cleaner so you want to keep away from kids and pets. Allow to cool completely, cover and store near your washing machine.

You can transfer to gallon jugs but I just leave mine in the bucket and use a scoop with a handle.

I hope this works for you like it does me.

My thoughts

Updated laundry soap

Rose and tea tree scented..


1 bar Dr. Bronners unscented hemp baby soap

1 bar Dr. Bronners rose scented hemp soap

6 cups washing soda

4 cups borax

1 cup baking soda

20 drops of tea tree oil

10 drops rosewood essential oil


1. Cut bar soap into small chunks. Using a food processor grind until smooth.. if you don’t own a food processor you can use a cheese grater. I also add some of the baking soda while grinding the bar soap.

2. Once bar soap is ground up put into a very large bowl or pan. Don’t worry what you use.. it’s soap we’re making.

3. To the large bowl add the borax, washing soda, and remaining baking soda. Using a wooden spoon mix it up.

4. Add essential oils and mix again.

5. Transfer to a air tight glass conditioner.

While doing laundry add a couple scoops to the wash. Using warm water, not hot or cold. Warm water won’t make your electric bill skyrocket.. hot water will make colors mix run and mix you don’t want that mess.

That’s all folks it’s literally a little bit of work for a huge reward, and you know what you’re putting on you families skin.. almost all of the brands you buy are toxic.. now I may be crazy but I don’t want that crap on my family or in the bodies.. I don’t care how good it smells.

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Cleaning and Cleanliness = snootiness? Venting post.

I have long wondered why having a clean home and clean appearance, both on the outside and the inside is equal to being snooty or stuck up.

I clean my home everyday, sometimes twice or three times a day. I do not do this to impress anyone, or to make anyone feel bad. So it puzzles me as to why some people (not all) thinks this way.

I do try to refrain from swearing and I always use my manners. The way I speak never matched my clothing. This is currently a work in process. However I am not stuck up or snotty. It just puzzled me.

I’ve come to the bitter conclusion that this is a problem within those people. They know what needs to be done, yet they either do not care or they don’t have the ability to do so.

Now this is going to make some mad, but it is what it is.

Not caring is just being lazy, and hiring someone to clean your home is just disgraceful. I’m sorry but it is. If you aren’t working or hardly work and you hire someone because you’re that lazy.. well.. that’s on you.

If you cannot physically clean your home I understand this. This is the only exception to hiring someone. But I’ve seen even the most unable do things, so think hard before you say you cannot.

This is mostly a rant post, because of people who don’t like to clean or take care of themselves. they think those of us who do are snooty and stuck up. I’m sorry we don’t like living in filth and clutter.. and we choose to take care of ourselves.. my goodness don’t get me started on clutter.

My grandmother (RIP love you) who was a big woman and could barely move kept a clean home.. Of course with the help of my grandfather (RIP love you too). There were no big messes in their home. And everyday that she could she made her bed, after she got out of it, than when she couldn’t my grandfather would help her. His bed was always made, and he was always showered and dressed well. He always carried a hanky on him at all times.

These days you don’t see that, you see folks running around with sweatpants on and just a lot of not caring. Their homes and rooms filthy and cluttered beyond belief. No structure. I was guilty of this at one point, but not anymore now that I’m older. Now I’m teaching my girls to clean up after themselves, and how to use their manners.

We have to bring back that pride in ourselves, in our homes, and instil it into our kids. Enough of this carelessness attitude. Enough with the disrespecting our elders, and the human population. Take pride in yourself, in your homes, and you will see a shift in the way you think. Filth and clutter equal stress and doesn’t help with depression.

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Style update, life update.

So a few years back I tried to change my style. I looked good, but it didn’t stick.

(Back story) I have always dressed either very goth, or some weird country style, but I always went back to goth. Why? Because I figured if people were intimidated by me, they’d listen to me. Well that worked, but at the same time didn’t work. My personality is actually quite bubbly, but not overly. So dressing the way I did with the personality I have didn’t match up. I got into clicks, and friendships as a goth, I’ve changed A LOT over the years. I’ve lost friends and I’ve gained new ones as my style changed. Figuring out who I am has been a constant battle, yes a battle. Am I goth, am I country, am I casual, what the heck am I??

Well I didn’t and don’t have a clear answer to that. I’m still searching. What I know I am; is a mom, is someone who wants to be taken serious, is a person who doesn’t want to intimidate others. I also what my personality to match who I am on the outside. I’m feminine, but not super girly. I want a classic timeless look.

So in order for this to happen I had to do, and I still am doing my research. I’m researching how to have a more feminine classy wardrobe. It’s actually a lot of work, and I’m figuring out what works for me. What I don’t like, and what I do like. What I will wear, and what is absolutely not going on my body.

This change is coming from me, not anyone else. This is completely my choice, and why I want to do it are also my reasons.

I have little girls, and my oldest is getting into wanting to look her best. Her favorite color is pink, of course. I want to look my best, so she’ll continue to want to look her best. I want to teach her and her sister everything I wasn’t taught.

As for a life update. This summer has been crazy, and hot.. I’m so glad it’s almost over. Cape Cod (where we live) was struck with three tornados, almost three weeks ago. No massive damage, but it was scary. The girls are excited for the coming school year, as am I. We will be going school shopping soon, oh and I have a 1st grader.. can y’all believe that??

As for me, I am no longer fully vegan but I do stick to a mostly dairy free diet. The girls are still very much vegan, it’s all they’ve known they’re whole lives. In my current situation it’s exactly hard to eat plant based, but I’ll be back there someday, hopefully soon. I know a plant based diet is what’s best for my health and theirs. They will continue on and I will follow as soon as I can.

Other than the craziness of summer I don’t have much else to tell y’all. Hopefully I’ll be posting more as the girls return to school.

Much love


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MIA – and life

Well I’ve been Mia for a while. I do apologise for that, as I have been dealing with some stuff on a personal level. However regular posting will resume starting very soon.

I will say that a lot of things have come to light, and some major life changes have happened. I was able to finally locate my biological father, and prove without a doubt that he is indeed my father. Through DNA testing this was possible. So I was able to close that chapter. I found many family members I never even knew existed. I was welcomed with all my quirkiness. Other chapters have closed, and I’m thankful for that. Onto new chapters in life now.

I have been posting to Instagram more and more these days as things go back to normal.

Keep a look out for new postings and know I’m still here, I haven’t gone very far.

Much love




Five vegan staple meals everyone will love

This post is dedicated to a friend who took control of her life and decided she wanted better for herself and her children. I hope this helps your transition.

Pulled BBQ “Beefy” mushroom and onions
You’ll need
1 package of Baby bella mushrooms
1 large red onion
your favorite BBQ sauce
1 tsp onion powder
1 tsp Garlic powder
1 tsp paprika
salt & pepper to taste
cooked white or brown rice, or quinoa
*preheat oven to low broil*
This one is my absolute favorite vegan meal. It’s healthy, it’s savory, and it’s comfort food.
Super easy to make too. Slice up mushrooms, I use either baby bellas or oyster mushrooms. Baby bellas are more affordable in my opinion, and they cook up nicely. slice up a yellow or red onion. I like to use red onions because they are colorful, and being vegan you want to try to eat the rainbow. Saute the mushrooms and onions in a pan on medium heat until soft. While sauteing add a mix of paprika, onion and garlic powder, and salt and pepper. Go easy on the salt, you’ll be adding BBQ sauce next. Saute for five minutes stirring frequently. Turn the heat down to low. Add BBQ sauce of your choice, Make sure it’s vegan. Once everything is mixed all together move to a parchment paper lined cookie sheet. Pace into oven and broil until there is a light char on the mixture. Serve on top a bed of rice or quinoa and enjoy.

Vegan mashed potatoes
What you’ll need for a family of 4:
6 medium large yellow/white potatoes
1 cup coconut milk original unsweetened
1/2 tsp onion powder
1/2 tsp garlic powder
2 tbsp vegan butter (hey its mashed potatoes, you’re allowed to indulge)

Peel potatoes and cute into chunks. There is absolutely no reason to cut potatoes into small pieces. It’s unnecessary work you don’t need to be doing. Boil on medium high until they are fork tender, about 20 minutes, drain and set aside.
In a small sauce pan add the milk, butter, and seasonings but not the salt & pepper. Cook on medium low until warmed and just steaming, no need to boil this mixture.
Using a potato masher slowly add the mixture to the potatoes and mash until you get the consistency you like. Season with salt & pepper to taste.

Pizza!! who doesn’t like pizza
What you’ll need for 2 pizzas:
2 store bought pizza dough (Pillsbury makes a “accidental” vegan dough also some store brand make them too)
1 glass jar of tomato sauce
3 packages of vegan cheese shreds ( a bit pricey but worth it as long as you’re not making pizza everyday)
Preheat oven according to dough instructions
Place dough onto parchment lined cookie sheet and using a rolling pin roll the dough out to fit the pan. Add sauce enough to cover the pizza, now place a layer of the shreds. Follow the heating directions on the dough packaging. If you like cheese extra crispy you can broil the shreds a bit. Allow to cool a bit and serve.

Breakfast cookies
What you’ll need
1 1/2 cups old fashioned oats
1 cup whole wheat flour (unbleached)
1/2 cup dark chocolate chips 
1/4 cup raisins 
1/2 cup brown sugar 
1/2 cup date sugar
Pinch of salt 
1 tsp baking soda 
1 1/2 tsp cinnamon 
1 1/2 tsp pure vanilla extract 
1/2 cup vegan butter softened 
3 tbsp agave nectar 
1/2 cup peanut butter 
1 1/2 tsp plant milk 
splash of water (helps with mixing
Preheat oven to 350, line a cookie sheet with parchment paper. Combine all ingredients in a large bowl and go to town mixing. Use an ice cream scoop to place onto the cookie sheet. Once the mixture is on the cookie sheet use a fork to push it down a bit. Bake for 8 to 11 minutes. Edges should be golden brown. Wait a couple minutes before transferring to a cooling rack.  Package up into compostable baggies or reusable baggies and you have a quick go to breakfast.

Lazy “chicken” nuggets and french fries.
You’ll need:
1 package of vegan chicken nuggets (Whole foods brand is very affordable)
1 bag of lightly processed frozen french fries

okay this is a seriously easy and a lazy day meal. Follow the heating directions on the bags. This is Vallettas favorite meal. The one she request the most actually. If you don’t have a whole foods I’m sure your local grocery store has a version of vegan nuggets. Also almost all fries are vegan but I have found a couple that have milk products in them for whatever weird reason. I’ve also found some frozen onion rings that contain milk products.. Just be sure to read the label, them more you do this the quicker you’ll get.

I hope these recipes help y’all transition to vegan, and remember vegan doesn’t have to be expensive but can be affordable as well as tasty. Also you don’t have to be vegan to enjoy these recipes. I encourage everyone to try them.

My thoughts

Best friend(s)

This post is dedicated to my two very best friends, I appreciate you both so much. No matter how far away or close you may be.

Everyone deserves a best friend; a person who you can trust, and run to with questions. A person who you can tell your secrets to, and know they’ll be safe. I am lucky enough to have two very best friends.

This first lovely lady I met when I was pregnant with my oldest, we met in a weight loss surgery mommy group. Believe it or not I used to be very heavy, but that’s a story for another time. Her and I clicked right away, and the rest is really just history. Friendship without judgment, just pure love and support through everything. She lives on the West coast while I’m over here on the East coast. I don’t know what I’d have done without her throughout my pregnancies and life so far. Her being three hours behind me has some advantages. If I have to take one of the kids to hospital she’s up most times. Since my Facebook is mostly a very small amount of family, and people I know in real life she can update them all for me. I can do the same for her. It isn’t your textbook friendship but it fits us perfectly. She’s heard it all, from my family issues to what my kids vomit looks and smells like. All without batting an eye. For this reason and many others I love her like the sister I never had.

This second lovely lady I met at work, it wasn’t love at first sight, but there was definitely something there. She was avoiding me, and I didn’t know why. I call her my “twin flame” my sister from another mister. Once she stopped avoiding me we instantly clicked. Like our “souls” (and I use that term lightly) found each other. She lives here on the East coast with me, literally like five minutes up the road. She’s been here with me since before I started my search for my father. She has listened to me vent about life, and love, and everything in between. She is an amazing person with an amazing personality. She’s helped plan, and has attended both my girls birthday parties. She’s watched my girls, which you have to be someone I really trust to get that privilege. She’s even on my kids emergency pickup list. Shes Auntie to my kids, and I’m auntie to hers. There’s something so magical about having people like this in your life.

I really wish I had these two wonderful women in my life growing up. I surely needed them then. They say the best comes in time and I surely believe this. I’m just glad I didn’t have to wait until I was grey for these lovelies. Some say you cannot choose your family but I highly disagree. I may have not been able to choose the family I was born into, but I can choose the family I want to surround myself with. These two are my sisters for all the right reasons, and I could not have chosen any better. I love you both and I am so thankful to have finally met you.


Breakfast cookies

Vegan dark chocolate chip, and peanut butter oatmeal raisin breakfast cookies. Phew that’s a mouth full.. we absolutely loved these cookies. They are sweet, savoury, with just the right amount of vegan goodness. Y’all need to make these ASAP.


1 1/2 cups old fashioned oats

1 cup whole wheat flour (unbleached)

1/2 cup dairy free dark chocolate chips

1/4 cup raisins

1/2 cup brown sugar

1/2 cup date sugar

Pinch of salt

1 tsp baking soda

1 tbsp hemp seeds

1 tbsp chia seeds

1 1/2 tsp cinnamon

1 1/2 tsp pure vanilla extract

1/2 cup vegan butter softened

3 tbsp agave nectar

1/2 cup peanut butter

1 1/2 tsp plant milk

splash of water (helps with mixing)

Doubling the recipe

Preheat oven to 350°, line a cookie sheet with compostable parchment paper. Combine all ingredients in a large bowl and go to town mixing. Use an ice cream scoop to scoop onto the cookie sheet. Once the mixture is on the cookie sheet use a fork to push it down a bit. Bake for 8 to 11 minutes. Edges should be golden brown. Wait a couple minutes before transferring to a cooling rack. Thats it.. I hope you enjoy these as much as we do. This recipe can also be doubled, and made into granola bars. Kid tested, kid approved.

So tasty

My thoughts

So much plastic!!

I live in what I consider a food desert. We have grocery stores and convenient stores on nearly every corner. Fast food everywhere you look. Some may think that having these near are an advantage, but it’s not. I try to buy non plastic packaged fruits and veggies, but everywhere I go they are packaged in plastic, wrapped in elastics, or twist ties. Everything is super over priced because it’s brought in on trucks.

I live on an island, a man made island that has all four seasons. I don’t think this is a valid reason to severely jack up the prices of food. Cape Cod is a great vacation spot but it’s losing its young people because its failure to have jobs, and be affordable. Not only is the price of food way too high, housing and taxes are ridiculous. However right now I’m speaking about the food desert.

I just wish we had more options for healthy food being served sustainably, and fruits and veggies being packaged more eco friendly. Unfortunately Cape cod just isn’t there. It’s the reason I’m starting to really get into growing my own food. I highly doubt this place is going to change that dramatically in the next few years. As I’ve said to my Significant other, we need to learn and teach the girls how to grow and maintain a garden. They need to be able to care for themselves when this place goes far south, and becomes a full on food desert. Especially since both my girls are vegan and cannot have what a typical child can have.

When I go into the grocery store for the weeks shop I get stares as I’m leaving. I do not use bags, and I don’t bring mine into the store. It is much easier and I’m not rushed when I bag it up at the truck. I do not accept a bag unless I ABSOLUTELY have too and it has to be paper.

This was a rant more than a blog post, but it’s something I’m very passionate about. I do not like living in a food desert, and I try to do my best to not buy a ton of plastic.

Things I do to be as sustainable as I can.

1. I reuse glass jars to drink from.

2. Anything reusable is either glass, stainless steel, metal, or silicone.

3. I try not to throw anything away, but instead give it away or bring it to a donation area.

4. We cook with stainless steel, and own one eco friendly nonstick pan.

5. I make my own laundry soap, it works well if not better that store bought.

6. I make my own house cleaner, and yes it works.

7. We use a sink water filter instead of buying bottled water.

8. We use a regular coffee pot instead of a Keurig.

9. I wash the girls and my laundry together.

10. The girls have very minimal plastic toys and I don’t buy them plastic toys. They have what they wanted to keep when we did the clean out.

My thoughts

Addiction-yep we’re going there

Well it’s Monday night, and we’re talking about addictions. No we’re not going to dabble in the drug and alcohol area of addiction. We’re going to chat about the lesser talked about energy drink and sugar addiction. Two combined addictions that many adults and teenagers share. So why have I decided to speak on this topic? Well I have been addicted to energy drinks since my youngest was born. It was a slippery slop from the moment I drank the first one. So this blog post will be based on my own addiction story.

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My daughter Keira was born in October of 2014, and I was a stay at home mom. I was always super tired, and needed something that wasn’t coffee to keep me going. Someone in a group, on Facebook had posted a tread on energy drinks. I happened to chime in. I’ve always liked Monster energy drinks, but I was never addicted to them. Since having weight loss surgery I was unable to drink anything carbonated. So this had ruled out energy drinks, the super sugary ones. Even the no sugar energy drink were still carbonated, so I couldn’t drink those either. This is basically what I had said on the thread. A woman chimed in and told me about Monsters non-carbonated line of energy drinks. I was excited, ecstatic to be honest. So I went to try one, and that was it. I was hooked. Every picture I took you’d see a shadow of this drink, or a full on photo of this drink. I was drinking in excess of up to eight a day. Some days I’d only drink four, some days six, others eight. I knew all the places they were the cheapest, and all the employees knew me. I was known as the.. no bag woman who would buy four monsters at a time. Particularly the lemonade flavor.

It all came to an end this past Thursday. I knew at some point I’d either have a heart attack or another medical problem because of my addiction. This was it, the turning point. This was the forced quitting I needed. Wednesday I woke up in pain. It wasn’t that time of month so it wasn’t that. I thought I had pinched a never. My entire back, sides, and legs were in so much pain. It peaked that night at work. I honestly thought I was dying. I still had no idea what was happening. I woke up Thursday in very little pain. I got the kids up, dressed and eating breakfast. I opened my monster and took a sip. Within two minutes I was in pain again. Still not completely understanding what was going on I took the girls to school. Finally after taking another sip it dawns on me.. My kidneys and liver are fighting back, and the monster is the cause of all of my pain. I dumped it out my window driving down the road. Tossed the can in my trash can I keep in the truck. That was it, the last sip of an energy drink. I’ve been having pains since then. I know how much of the toxins are in my body from that drink. It’s going to take a while for it all to leave my system. My pains are getting less and less, and my symptoms are going away little by little.

Why did I tell you this story? I want everyone to know how bad these are for you. I was blind and naive to the fact of the harm these can do to my body. People have died from these, I’m very lucky I know. Even the low calorie, non-carbonated ones can harm you. Between the artificial sugar, to the overload of B vitamins, and whatever else they put into them.. None of it is good. Even just one a day increases your risk of a heart attack, and I honestly don’t know how I avoided it. If you have loved ones who drink these please voice your concern, tell them my story, show them my blog post. You can eat as healthy as you want, but if you are drinking these it will compromise your system. Teenagers are so susceptible to drinking these, parents need to be stern and not allow them to start. I know we cannot control everything they do, but we can set the standard and a good leading example.

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When life throws you a curve ball.

Life is full of curve balls. Some you see coming, but others have to hit you in the side of the head before you see them. So what do you do when you get hit with a curve ball? There isn’t much choice when you get one. You must make a decision whether or not to freak out, or take it step by step and day by day. Trust me when I say freaking out will do you no good, in the moment decisions wont either. Our initial thought is to lose it, breakdown, and just be defeated. We do this automatically, but we can stop it. Allowing this curve ball to take more out of you than it has too is completely up to you. Here are four steps to avoiding a mental breakdown in that moment. Lets be honest for a moment.. You will breakdown, but you have to be strong while you make decisions, and after the dust is settled you can have that cry fest. So here are my four steps to avoiding that initial breakdown.

  1. Asses the situation – with as clear of a head as physically possible. Figure out why this happened, who threw this ball, and what can be done.
  2. You gotta breath – This is critical, if you don’t remain calm you’ll lose is before you figure anything out. That is the last thing you want or need.
  3. Seclusion, with in reason – a lot of people would disagree with me. However have you ever tried to asses a situation with people talking in your ear, telling you what to do before you have a chance to figure anything out? No its not a good thing. Once you have had time to process the situation you should reach out to someone(s) you trust.
  4. Get outside – You’ll need to clear your head, and again breath. Something as simple as listening to gentle music and walking down your local main street is enough to aid in clearing your head. This is great to do after the shock, and all the thinking. I encourage you to do this with your best friend, just to have them their beside you.

Once the shock is over, and you’ve had the chance to figure some or everything out you should have that cry. I suggest doing this in private. I’ve done this cry in public, at work actually. It wasn’t pretty, I looked and felt awful the rest of my shift. Sometimes you cannot help where you have this breakdown, especially if you’re like me and you try to remain strong without that cry. It’s not healthy to keep it bottled up, and definitely isn’t self love. You need to release these feelings so you can move on. I know I know, but you don’t have to be strong all the time. You don’t have to let anyone see you cry, or explain why you’re crying. When I was asked why if I was okay, and what was wrong all I said was “just a lot going on, I’m okay”. No one needs anymore information than that. You are not obligated to open up to everyone you come across. Just your mum, your best friend, or a close relative. This is all by choice and I highly recommend you confide in the person you trust the most. No it doesn’t have to be family. I confide in my best friend, because I just don’t have that family connection.

The journey may be hard, but we are strong. There is nothing we cannot do, with perseverance, self love and respect for ourselves. Take your time making choices and going down new roads.

Just keep in mind this little piece of information.

“Every journey has many paths, you choose the paths you take. In the end you will have walked the journey you chose to walk. No one can dictate your path, unless you allow them too. You’re life rest in the palm of your hands, make it a good journey”

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Crazy flu and cold “season”

Y’all it’s been a crazy few weeks. Valletta tested positive for the flu and Keira had a nasty ear infection. All of this happened the week before winter vacation. This landed us in the hospital. Valletta probably got the flu from her father. Fast forward a week; we were back in the hospital due Valletta losing a significant amount of weight. She also was diagnosed with a slight ear infection. She got antibiotics and we were out of there. That Friday we were back in the hospital after I had to call rescue for Keira. The antibiotic for her ear infection made her breakout in hives. Thankfully her breathing was fine. So I was able to drive to the hospital which is about 10 minutes away. We were seen relatively quick. They administered Prednisone (spelling), and an antihistamine. The rash was under control even though it got redder before it went away. During all of this I was (somehow) the only one not sick. I did get the lovely job of taking care of everyone. I was able to manage the symptoms with our homeopathic cold medicines. We got antibiotics only when absolutely needed. Fast forward to today, I brought them both to school. They haven’t had fevers or vomited since a few days ago. Valletta has made it to noon at school, but the day is still young. Keira made it an hour into school and her bum didn’t want to corporate. So I had to pick her up. Y’all this flu is no joke, get the shot if you still can. Wash your hands, and brush those teeth. I hate reading about death. Especially those that could have been avoided. Please keep those babies safe. Here’s to a healthy and happy spring. I’m back to posting, so things will pick up as normal.

Peace, love, and self acceptance.